If you’re new to the concept of self-compassion, then you might have the idea that someone like you doesn’t have time for such things. You might even associate it with weakness or self-pity.
Kristen Neff, author of Self-Compassion: The Proven Power Of Being Kind To Yourself, is known for her research and teachings regarding self-compassion. She has a lot to say about the benefits.
Check out this very short video where she discusses what science says about self-compassion:
Just allow this idea to sit with you for a moment.
If self-compassion is correlated with reduced rates of PTSD in war veterans, what could it do for you?
Imagine the benefits you might receive from a few simple mindset shifts and acts of self-compassion.
3 simple ways you can start to give yourself the gift of self-compassion:
- Speak kind words to yourself: Give yourself love by verbalizing and thinking words of compassion when you’re having a hard time. Imagine how a loving parent or friend might talk to you, and talk to yourself in that manner. Or better yet, imagine you’re speaking to a small child and let that lead the tone.
- Give yourself a hug: It might seem silly, especially if you’re like me and get a little uncomfortable with hugs in general. Regardless, human touch has self-soothing benefits, and it even works when you’re the one doing the touching. So simply cross your arms and give yourself a little hug for a minute or two, and see how you feel.
- Remember that you’re not alone in your suffering. In her book, Kristen Neff also talks about the benefits of tapping into the shared human experience of suffering. When we remember that we are all suffering in some way, it helps us to feel a little better and less alone about our situation.
What do you think? Could you give yourself a little more love and self-compassion, even if it feels a little uncomfortable at first?
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